Messaging a potential date online is drastically different to trying to find suitable chatting topics whilst sat opposite them in a busy bar or restaurant. This is why we’re here to point you in the right direction. These aren’t exclusive to first dates, so store them in your head for those awkward silences that need filling. As an added bonus, by being the conversation starter you will most probably win points for making them feel more at ease and therefore get to know the real personality, rather than the nervous small talking one.
To save time lets firstly just cover the no-go topics (at least until you’re comfortable together anyway). Ex partners always evoke a plethora of emotions and tales of usually unhappy times, which will make you both feel uncomfortable, so that should definitely avoided. If you start to get into the danger zone where one of the conversations you have ends with “I went there with my ex” get off that topic as quickly and subtly as possible. Religion and politics are the other two subjects that tend to divide or bond people, however, for your first couple of dates this is unnecessarily heavy. Find out if you like each other on a more basic level before moving onto whether you’re going to convert to their faith.