There are times when it can seem hard enough even to get a date in the first place. Maybe you aren’t meeting people online with whom you have the right chemistry, or maybe your schedules just don’t match up – sometimes you might think that it will be months before your next first date.
So when you do get that first date, you definitely don’t want to mess things up by saying the wrong thing. Here are three things that will almost make sure that you don’t get to Date #2 (or anywhere fun on that first date):
1. ‘I’m married’
OK, we’re all grown-ups here. But if you’re married and are looking for some fun on the side, there are websites that cater you. If you pretend to be single and head out for dates with other single people, you’d better keep your marital status to yourself when you meet for the first time. If you let the cat out of the bag while you’re sitting over your first glass of wine, you’re as likely as not to have her glass of wine thrown in your face.
Why is this such a bad idea? It’s all about expectations. Many women are looking for Mr. Right. If you set yourself up as Mr. Right but turn out already to have a family, things could go wrong in a hurry.
2. ‘I still live with my parents’
Is this a big deal? Not if you’re still in high school, or even university. But if you’ve graduated, or you’re out in the professional world, it’s probably a good idea to have a place of your own. And if you don’t yet, you certainly don’t want to let that slip.
What’s the problem with this? Even in the liberated 21st century, she is still looking for someone who can provide her with some of the nice things in life. That might be fancy dinners out, and fun trips on the weekends, but it might also be a nice place for the two of you if she’s looking for something serious from the get-go. If you’re still sleeping in the same bed where you cuddled your teddy bear, she’s not likely to take you that seriously. So just be vague when she asks about where you live.
3. ‘I’ve always liked the idea of an open marriage’
Maybe you have. The swinging lifestyle is growing with each passing year, and with marriage becoming less and less of a social expectation as time goes by people are becoming more creative with the way they view relationships.
However, there is no guarantee that the girl across the table from you shares that view. This is definitely an area where you’ll want to feel things out gradually. So over that first drink or dinner, keep things casual and cool. That way you’re much more likely to get what you want.
These points should be simple to stay away from, but we all know just how much trouble our mouths can get us into!